My husband and l had as was referred to as an open relationship

My husband and l had as was referred to as an open relationship

Which you can then start fresh again and learn to love each other and build back that trust and do new things

But what we do know is that a biological need principais sites de namoro inter-raciais of sex and lust which is ingrained into our DNA, would play on any long term relationship such as yours as it does any other living animal that reproduces. I seriously believe that “you don’t know what you had until it’s gone” is the saying which I’m sure your husband is repeating in his head right now. I feel the sheer fact he is upset and depressed is a good sign that your relationship isn’t yet over, I’m sure he will become ever more guilty and loving as the years go by.

I want you to not just fall into the trap that I see time and time again of reading the wrong things and watching the wrong videos. Where affairs are Black and White. There are underlying grey areas in all walks of life and the disapproval of friends and family ALWAYS blackens the fire.

What lm am getting at is even in a open relationship you can cheat and be cheated on if boundries are broken

Your own problems you will solve behind closed doors yourselves. Talk, go for walks and talk. Take a break away and talk. TALKING HEALS….

People DO deserve 2nd and 3rd chances. People DO change and people DO make right and wrong decisions. Life isn’t simple. Love, lust, Deaths, and Affairs are all big parts of it, often these face you when you are at your most settled. Which completely knocks you down.

I hope Today’s a new day. To pick your thoughts up and work things out with your partner. Move forward. Enjoy this precious life.

I just want to say that this is a lovely reply to Debbie, you are quite correct in saying that everyone deserves a 2nd and 3rd chance if necessary, we are all human and make mistakes, some more serious than others, I am currently at the start of resurrecting my marriage of 23 years after my wife had an affair, (I was too involved in work and planning for the future re college etc for our children, and hence neglected my wife), I fully intend to try my best to move on and be a better person, and leave the past where it belongs, in the past.

It has been interesting to reading everyones experiences and views on here. Many believe that this title means it is a free for all attitude this not the case. Open relationships vary vastly but most have rules set by partners in part for health and safety and most importantly to protect the integrity of each others personal needs which include TRUST and RESPECT. One of our agreements was we vetted each others sexual partner choices if one of us was not happy then that person was not to be seen. My husband broke this rule and in doing so BROKE my TRUST it was not the sex but like everyone on here it is the betrayal of the agreement you have in what ever vows you have made. It’s the destruction of respect and self esteem that is soul destroying. The affair lasted 3 years. Some parts are harder to cope with than others our son was born during this time l had started a grueling medical degree in my 40s to. His father died and l was asked to break the news to him one of the hardest most painful things l have ever had to do. I later found out rather than seeking comfort with me he went and spent the night with this women that will hurt forever l think. He has cut all ties and we are still together but l do not trust him like l once did and am am intolerant of any nonsense from him. I make time to look after myself and my son and am feeling better about me l also managed to achieve my Bachelors degree through all the pain and being diagnosed with PTSD. Not the first time a husband has cheated on me my PTSD diagnoses is a combination of past and current trauma. Things are tough and lm not sure things will ever be the same or if we will stay together he is not making the emotional effort to enable me to fully re commit right now. Remember to focus on your own self preservation and happiness and l feel if they are willing to work on the relationship it will get better if not it wont. Big hugs to all

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